Hey stupid, I like your hair today!

I have a big flaw. I see the good in people. And I enjoy it. And I don't keep it to myself. And this leads to a lot of confusion.

When I say things like "I love the way your shoes match your skirt", I don't want to brown-nose you. I don't want anything from you. I don't want you to pay me a compliment back (though I do enjoy it). I mean no innuendos. I don't say this to make you uncomfortable. I say it because I mean just that. Your shoes look nice. Period! 

 But you are right, some compliments can be taken differently depending on lots of factors. If I say something generic like "I like your hair today", you might think I'm saying your hair doesn't always look good. So rule number one in giving compliments is to be specific about what you like. Some thoughts on compliments should just be revised and corrected (IMHO).

Even the term "PAYING a compliment" is wrong because it means that you expect something in return for your payment. If you receive a compliment from me, just know that I see you. I noticed. I care. You are worth the attention. And I am giving you this little present for free!

It must also be one of those cultural difference things too. I feel comfortable approaching people and saying nice things. It's just the way I roll.  I love giving and receiving compliments. They make my day! They are like little verbal hugs that make you realize that somebody is paying attention. And I want to make your day when I say something nice to (or about) you. Now take it like the present it is, enjoy it, put it away and get on with your life! 

It's quite funny that people are more comfortable taking an insult than a compliment. If I say "Hey Stupid", you might reply with a playful smile on your face. But forget me saying "Hey beautiful/handsome". That is almost inappropriate. Why?